To me, online friendship and real-world friendship are the same. There is a set of social code people needs to follow like in the real life. Most importantly we support, care, and love each other, as a family, or as friends.
This is not the case in the online world. We tend to post everything we like or we do not like, and expecting people to like it anyway the thing you like or dislike. It is fine if someone like our post, but is something totally unimportant to us what is happening around our family and friends, except we must share the celebrity post to make them even more popular like it is our mission in life. A good analogy in a ‘normal’ real life scenario is that we go to visit our friends, to share with them the food we have cooked. On another day, those friends come and revisit us with their home cooked food too. However, the reality in the ‘online’ version scenario is that we visited our friends, and then we never see them coming to visit us again. Instead, we read the news and realize that they all have gone to queue up in front of a celebrity home for a visit. Is not that very funny?
As I have started my photography business, and I do not have money to buy Facebook ‘Sponsored Ads’, so I need to rely on my family and friends on Facebook to help me to promote my business (and my blog). One of my Facebook friends W encouraged me to do so. W said that we are friend, we are supposed to support and to help each other. W is only less than 1% of my Facebook ‘friends’ that are willing to help. W even mobilized her friends and family members to help me. I suddenly realize that I should have put more time on culturing real friendship rather than those who have never ‘come to visit me’.
The famous Chinese writer Lu Xun once said, to waste people’s time is analogous to wasting people’s life. So should we waste our own precious life on people who do not even really care about ‘Facebook friendship’ anymore? Let’s be my real friends (family members), to support, to care, and to love each other, in the online world or in the real world. The world may be changing, but not on some social values, and definitely not on the meaning of love.